Letting the River Flow

Nicholas Urbaniak • October 24, 2024

The Power of Letting Go

Imagine, just for a moment, that there’s a river flowing within you. It’s not a wild, rushing current but a steady, peaceful stream that’s always there. Its purpose is to carry you effortlessly through life, guiding you from one moment to the next. But when we hold onto our thoughts, worries, or the need to control everything around us, it’s as if we start placing stones in that river. Every stone creates a dam, blocking the flow and causing tension.


We’ve all felt that tension, haven’t we? The tightness in our chest when we’re worried about the future, the racing thoughts when something isn’t going as planned, or the frustration when things feel beyond our control. These are the stones we place in our own river, often without even realizing it. And the more we hold on to these thoughts, the more the flow within us slows down.


But here’s the thing about presence: It doesn’t ask us to force anything. Presence is not about trying harder, pushing more, or figuring things out. It’s about letting go. Just as a river naturally flows when there are no obstacles, so too does our inner peace return when we release the need to control every thought and emotion.


The Act of Letting Go


Letting go can seem like a strange or even impossible task, especially in a world that constantly encourages us to hold on tighter, work harder, and strive for more. But letting go isn’t about giving up or losing control. It’s about trusting the natural flow of life and recognizing that our efforts to control everything are what block that flow.


Try this: The next time you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, pause for just a second. Don’t try to fix anything, don’t try to solve the problem—just notice the tension. Then, imagine yourself placing down a stone, a worry, or a thought. In doing so, you’re allowing your inner river to flow again, unobstructed.


It’s not about pushing the river to flow—it’s about noticing that when we stop placing those stones, the flow naturally returns. There’s a deep ease that comes with this, a sense of peace that isn’t tied to what’s happening around you but is instead found in the quiet stillness within.


Presence as a Constant Companion


Many people think of presence as something to tap into when life gets tough, when they’re overwhelmed and need a break from the chaos. But what if presence could be more than just a tool for moments of stress? What if it could be a constant companion, guiding you not just when you need it most, but through every moment of life?


Presence is always there, like that river, waiting for us to notice it. The challenge is in realizing that we don’t need to wait until the river is blocked by stones to experience it. We can choose to let go, again and again, allowing the flow of life to carry us with ease.


It’s not a one-time fix. It’s a practice of noticing, of releasing, and of trusting that there is a flow within you that knows exactly where you need to go. All you have to do is let the river carry you.


An Invitation to Flow


As you go through your day, I invite you to take a moment to notice where you might be holding on. Where are the stones you’ve placed in your river? And what would it feel like to set just one of those stones down? Not forever—just for now. See how the flow returns, see how the tension eases, and trust that the river knows its way.


Presence isn’t something you have to chase. It’s here, right now, flowing within you. All you have to do is let go and allow yourself to be carried.

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